As a therapist, I spent countless hours listening. It was sometimes a temptation to break my silence too soon, risking the disruption of the client’s process of self-discovery. As Dr. Alan Lickerman has written, “Silence gets you out of the way and creates a space others will fill in with themselves.”
I counseled a lot of couples which typically involved teaching/facilitating partners to get quiet enough long enough to hear what the other person was truly expressing. Relationships of all types are dependent on the ability to be silent, to listen, to open the ears of the heart. The site Quora describes silence as having “a certain energy to it like no other energy source.”
Relationships need this energy. But we also benefit as individuals when we draw on it. Even Forbes magazine encourages business people to make use of this, stating: “You don’t need other people to reap the power of silence. Take time out of your day to be silent. Hold a moment of silence when you wake up in the morning. Go into a room during the workday, and close the door for a few minutes. Pause just before you go to bed.”
We are often quick—too quick—to say we “don’t have time.” Really? We need to think about what we are actually saying when we express that. We have time for whatever we make a priority. And, truly, it doesn’t take a lot of time to make a lot of difference. Even a few minutes before you begin your day or just a few deep breaths to center yourself in the midst of your day can call you to a more grounded space.
Think of silence as a kind of energy, as essential as the air you breathe. If you haven’t already discovered the difference it can make, accept the challenge today. And blessings on the journey.
May we be bearers of hope, the “wait staff” of Hope’s Café for each other and all those we encounter. Shalom, Kate
Hope’s Café Bonus: Google “Breathing in, breathing out lyrics” or go to: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8iRJEMzQ4To
You will find a brief meditative song that may assist you in taking some silent moments.