Two Cups of Tea at Hope’s Café
My mother used to say “Once you have made a decision, murder the alternative.” I don’t know if that was original to her but I don’t find another source for that quote. Wise as that is, Terry and I have found it hard to live by with this move. There were all sorts of practical reasons to move back to Tennessee. But we had already established some pretty deep roots in Montana. Periodically prior to the move we had the discussion: “Do we really have to do this?” This hellacious move has in someways contributed to: “Why again was it we decided to do this?”
So how does one keep from “re-litigating” a decision? I often search for other folks’ perspective to offer their suggestions for circumstances where one struggles to come to terms with a situation or the consequences of a decision. In this case, I share what means I have used for my own peace of mind.
I seek to begin when I wake to consider how I will approach the day. What attitude will frame these hours ahead? I ask myself “For what am I grateful today?” That is rarely an effort as there are always so many things I am aware of. When I am really “on top of my game” though, I am paying attention to my breathing, staying centered throughout the day, so that I don’t allow any molehills to become mountains. Admittedly, I have had several experiences recently that I did just that! But we aren’t shooting for perfection, folks. The intention is simply to cultivate peace within as best we can, knowing we won’t always succeed and giving ourselves (and others) plenty of grace on our daily journeys through life.
The invitation is open to share “two cups of tea” anytime at Hope’s Café, or anywhere you share companionship and conversation.
May we be bearers of hope, the “wait staff” of Hope’s Café for each other and all those we encounter. Shalom, Kate
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